Updated: Jan 12
One of the most important life lessons that I think that everyone needs to know, is how to be alone. This goes hand in hand with the idea of embracing being alone, and therefore the art of the solo date.
Let's be real here for a moment, as much as no one wants it to be so, the possibility exists that you may not be able to find that magical type of love and companionship, and therefore learning and practicing the art of the solo date is the only way you may be able to get out of the house. And as much as no one wants to talk about it, this is a very real very possible reality, I talked with a co-worker the other day who is 50+ no partner, no friends, no children and is utterly afraid to get dinner alone.
Which brings us to the solo date, it is so incredibly important to embrace not waiting for friends, a partner, a random tinder or bumble date to do the things that you want to do.
Therefore here is the Art of the Solo Date
1. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable - The first and most impoirtant part of the solo date is learning to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. When you first start going out on your own to activities that were previously done in the company of others, can be incredibly awkard and uncomfortable. You may want to even have a buffer like your phone or a book, and thats okay, but i challgne you to practice doing these things without a buffer or anything else to look at.
2. Challenge Yourself- Chanllenge yourself to go solo to the places that you want to go, but would feel the most uncomfterable about going. Going solo to a cofe is easy, resturant could be even harder, and even harder than that can be that new place that just opend up. Whatever is place is a challnge for you, start going to those places.
3. Be Confident - Confidence is the key to being able to partake in the solo date. Confidence takes time and pratice. Know what makes you confident and do those things as well. Wear the outfits that make you confident, shoes that make you confident anything that can help you build that confdience in yourself.
4. Try - Trying - The most important act or part of the solo date is to simply get out then and try. Thats it. Try and Try again. Try and fail, Try and succeed.
All of these things, I promise you can get you to embrace the art of the solo date, and help you to learn to take time and simply be with yourself. That way no matter if there are others in your life or not, you are not holding yourself back from living life. At the end of the day thats the most important thing afterall, to live life.